This month, April, has been special. During my stay in St Gallen (Switzerland) I had the opportunity to visit Maria Magdalena, the "Counseling Center for Women in the Sex Industry". Mrs. Marija look after me, a charming an very lovely woman. We had been talking trough email several times, and I did not hesitate to visit her as soon as I was in St Gallen.
I explained to her a problem I had with a client who did not behave well. I knew this client from another date months ago, a sensual gentleman, about 45 years old. We planned a second date and spent 7 hours together. We had a great time, talking, laughing, having dinner... He planned he would come to visit me again the next day. My surprise was at the end of the date when he paid my fees, he said "here you have 500 francs". I felt he realized my discomfort because of my poker face, but I thought he would solve it the next day during the new date.
The next morning I sent him a WhatsApp telling him how great had been our date, and telling him the amount he should bring that day. The worst surprise: the only thing I got from him is blocking me in the app, so I can not continue writing, and of course he never answered my calls. It was impossible for me to contact him.
While we were outside of her office, Marija was smoking a cigarette and hearing my story. She empathized with me, and I couldn't avoid to drop some tears when she volunteered said to call him and try to negotiate. I gave her a couple of hugs so strong that she almost turned into blue because of the lack of air. We went back to her office and she called him. My German is almost as bad as my Arabic, I only managed to understand a few words. When she was finishing the conversation, she did the "ok" with her thumb... it seemed that we were going to achieve it! When she hung up the phone, she told me that he had agreed to pay. Marija told him that she would go with me to the police station to file up a report against him if he did not face his debt. Marija for President!
This post is a thanks letter to Marija, a couple of days ago the money he owed me has finally arrived.
Thank you, Marija, for making me more courageous after this experience, for making me being able to say that there are wonderful people willing to help sex workers, for being present for what I needed. You are an amazing person, you are unique.
Consultancy services for women in the sex industry
Friedaustrasse 1. 9001 St. Gallen
Phone number: +41 58 229 21 67
Here you will find some places where I feel comfortable if our appointment is in Barcelona.
The following link (in Spanish) shows us a couple who daily overcomes social prejudices that involves to be related to the world of prostitution. He has had to confront the stigma that their parents and friends have on the profession of his girlfriend. It's worth reading it!
Girlfriend Experience (GFE)